If You Will(Poem)

If you will love me, love me now
Don’t love me when your love would not matter any longer

If you will buy me flowers, buy them now
Don’t buy them when I have no breath to smell their beautiful essence

If you will pamper me with gifts, pamper me now
Don’t pamper me when I am in my hearse, heading towards the journey of no return

If you will be my friend, be my friend now
Don’t be my friend when I am lifeless

If you will, let it be now
If you will, let it be now

Don’t wait to tell the world
How much you cared after I am long gone

If you will, let it be now
If you will let it be now.

In loving memory of my beautiful mother.

Love and blessings,
Adja Amy

I Refuse!

As I woke this morning, a thought came to mind. Limitation! Yes, my mind reminisced on how once upon a time , man tried to limit me from becoming all I ought to be and more.

I was told I could not achieve much because I was of a particular colour.
Today , I stand to prove the person wrong.I have and continue to achieve every goal and dreams are becoming reality. I am on radio not just in the UK 🇬🇧 but in the USA 🇺🇸,broadcasting to hundreds of thousands across the globe, something I was told I could never achieve. And there is more!

Had I listened and allowed my mind to be blinded by the limitation of man, I would not be sharing this with you.

I was resolute and promised myself that I would not be limited when I have an incredible big God who has me in the palm of his hands.

On this journey, I still encounter people who try to put me in a box, but each time, I say to myself:

Today ,I refuse to be limited by man.

I refuse to be caged in a box of man’s limitation.

I refuse to create a prison of limitation in my heart and mind .

I refuse to focus on what man says I can or cannot do.

I choose to believe that I can and will achieve greater!

I choose to breakout of the box of limitation and breakforth into sucesss.

I am walking and working towards greateness.

Even though challenges may arise , I will crawl,leap,walk,jump and soar like and eagle! 🦅

I will chase my dream because I’m worth it . I am a champion ! And so are you!

So, Champion Live!!!

Happy Sunday!

Love and Blessings,
Adja
(Music by Lawrence Flowers & Intercession-Champion Live)

Sometimes (Poetry)

Sometimes
Sometimes I feel like a bucket
Daily filled with other’s cares and worries

Sometimes
Sometimes I feel like a mother
A mother of many nations looking for relief
A shoulder for comfort

Sometimes I feel
Sometimes I feel

Sometimes I feel like
No,I don’t want to hear
No,I don’t want to listen
No,I don’t want you to cry on my shoulder

Sometimes I feel
Sometimes I feel

But,sometimes is a time that would pass
But doing good is an act with a reward
Sometimes I feel like…

#Poetry Years gone and I haven’t written any poetry, errrrrr…
Poetry is such a beautiful tool to express the heart.
Writing is a beautiful art…

Love and Blessings,
Adja Amy!

Emotional Abusers;Can You Recognise Them

Holla to everyone snowed in on this day. 🙂
Hola to those of you in the sunshine! I would trade places with you;like right now!:-)

The weather has been interesting in London and as a result, some of us are still under the warmth of our duvets.I consider such a time as a time to reflect and wisely use another time away from work!

As I lay in bed,the thought on my mind today is Emotional Abuse. There are so many emotionally abusive people around us but some are not even aware that they are.

Psychological research has shown that emotional abuse has a more drastic impact on humans than physical abuse. Whereas physical abuse may leave you with scars,emotional abuse has the power to destroy the inner you. The emotional scarring as a result of the aforementioned can live on for years,thereby creating a sense of worthlessness.

Any person who does or acts in any of the ways below is actually abusing you emotionally. Run as far as possible before it gets too deep.

– [ ] Anyone who repeatedly disrespects or crosses your boundaries. Any man or woman who ignores your requests when you say: ‘No, I’ve had enough,no not now,I’ve got to go,’etc.

– [ ] Anyone who is domineering and controlling. These people do or say things to demean you, to upset you or frighten you. They want to take glory for your blessings even when they had no hand in the good you are experiencing. The most vulnerable person to a controller is a sensitive, tender-hearted individual. Abusers recognise your inability to speak up and so they use this to their selfish advantage.

– [ ] Emotionally abusive people will put down your intellect, your physical appearance and so on. Most of these people have self-esteem issues and what better way for them to feed their lack of confidence and their own intellect and appearance. The more you listen to such people,the more you begin to question your true beauty ,your intellect. You begin to see yourself as not worthy and unable to excel in anything you do.

– [ ] Emotional abusers are great at using sarcasm.They use this put you down or make you feel bad. They say the opposite of what they truly mean to demean you or make you feel like you have not achieved anything in life.

– [ ] Anyone who wants to monitor your doings,your time,your whereabouts is emotionally abusive.They would try to create a feeling of guilt in you when you do not share information about you with them. You feel more like a prisoner than a free born in the presence of such people.

– [ ] Any person who makes decisions that affect you without your prior knowledge or consent is an abuser. They plan out the course of your day,week,month,year without due consideration of your needs or feelings.

– [ ] To an emotional abuser, your suggestion,opinion or idea makes no sense.It does not really matter.They completely ignore your feelings and see everything you say as senseless. They do not readily accept your opinions but try to reinforce their own opinion as a law unto you.

– [ ] Any person who involves you in a never-ending argument that sucks the life out of you is an emotional abuser.They know that by going on and on with their argument,you may eventually give up and give in to their reasoning just so you can bring closure to the matter at hand.

– [ ] Any person with controlling expectations is an emotional abuser. They order you around and treat you as if you were a servant. If you’re both adults,they do not treat you as the equal adult that you are. They always feel the need to impose their authority over you. They treat you like a child who needs managing and controlling.

– [ ] Emotionally abusive people do not value or respect your peace and quietness.They have no consideration whatsoever for your privacy.

– [ ] Any person who uses guilt trips to get their way is an abuser. They act so well as victims and with them,you have no right to say no without remorse. They make statement such as ,’if you really cared about me you would do this’,’if you were a good person ,you would act this way or that way’.

There are so many other ways you could recognise emotionally abusive,controlling and manipulating individuals but these are the few I would share for now.

Now, don’t ask me how I know all this. Life is a journey and on this journey, I live,I watch and I learn. And sometimes,I write.

If you’re in a relationship, be it romantic, work-related,friendship where you are being emotionally abused, please seek help. Speak to someone;don’t die alone when the whole world thinks you’re living joyful. And if it is feasible to remove yourself away from that emotional abuser, please do so.

Love and Blessings,
Adja Amy.

Exempted!

Noah found grace in the eyes of the Lord even when the Lord was sorry that He had made man on the earth, and He was grieved in His heart. He was exempted! Singled out!

As I studied and meditated through the book of Genesis, this particular verse(6)in chapter 6 struck a cord. I believe God is reminding us that, regardless of the hardness around us and in the world; in spite of the fact that men constantly fall short of His glory, His love for us and those after His heart never changes. He is always faithful to favour us. He says:’My Spirit shall not strive with man forever’. He understands perfectly well that we are but flesh!

As we walk right before Him, He will pick us from the crowd and preserve us from the ‘flood’. He will bless us along with everything that is ours.

Even when we stray and go to and fro like the ‘raven’; if we go out of His will and like the dove find ‘no resting place for the sole of our feet’, God will still gives us the opportunity to go back into the ‘ark’ where there’s safety (Gen 8).He would put out His hand, take us, and draw us into the ark to Himself.

I felt such a strong need to share this. I’m so grateful to God that His grace is available for you and I.

From an ignorant, shy muslim girl, I’m glad through grace He found and saved me. He’s made 1 Peter 2:9 my reality. That’s the reason I passionately desire to use every gift to share His love. This just shows how excited I get when God opens the eyes of my understanding so I may know Him, experience His unconditional love the more.I hope this encourages and blesses you.

Bask in the freedom of God because all we need is YHWH!

May the kind of grace,favour and mercy Noah found single you and I out as we gradually enter into another glorious month.

Have a beautiful,blessed day.

Lové and Blessings
Adja Amy ☺…

Society’s Rule

Society seems to set a rule(permit me to say)of dos and don’ts,cans and can’ts (with timelines)for many people and sadly,many adhere to some of these limitations.

No one will marry you with kids.You get to an age where no man would be interested in you.You cannot have a child after a certain age.You do not get far in life if you are of a certain colour in a certain place. You have to be thin to be loved.Fat people cannot find love.Black,Brown,yellow immigrants cannot secure certain jobs in certain countries.And so on and so on.

But for a moment,ask yourself;who really makes society’s rules?Why do I adhere to these laws that often limit me?Who is actually this society imposing this on me?Ponder on this.

Love and Blessings,
Adja Amy